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Folks...this isnt intended for fight o...
when d woman becomes d breadwinner of d house, any long thing?
Pls..feel free to contribute...both male & female...
abi na...we dey get ready to go altar oooo ...
Bro. GB declared that this year...so many folks are tapping or have tapped into HIS ANNOINTING o

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Thank you jiggo for raising this issue. Is out of order for a woman to be a bread winner of the house. God did not create woman to take such responsiblity in the family. As we all know. God created Adam to till the ground and be a bread winner.
When a woman begings to take such resposibility, no matter how much love, understanding and respect she has for the man, she will always nag. Even if she is so rich such that she can feed the whole nation. She will still nag. (Laddie can you hear me out!!! Please let be sincere.). But this happen sometimes in a family due to the economic situation. But is never the best. Woman are rejoice more when they receive while men feel so proud when they give. It is a natural law that cannot be change.
Reader what do u think?

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hmmmmmmmmmmmmm,real big one ere ooooo,bt al d same ,i know its nt a too gud thin to hapeen to a man bt if it turns out dat way,a real woman shld take up the responsibilty and as 4 being tryin to become the man of the house,even issues like dat kome up, am sure her character traits wld ave shown dt already.so if a virtious woman does dt i dont tink she would want to bii the man of the house.gbam

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birin, now u r talking somtin...hope u'll represent ...if the onus lies on U
U know its beta said dan done...
dey always say that u dont no if person get Xter even if e be Xtian...until u hand am moni....so u sure say ur steps and dictions no go change wen u get am....and u com get am ova ur hubby...i no pray so sha o..

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This is an issue every man should pray against.
Your wife being richer is not an issue for her to become the breadwinner is not ideal and is against God's plan for his people.

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That as the future Heads of our families, we sincerely pray against anything that'll not make us fulfill our God ordained responsibility to taking complete care of our family, even then we pray to get married to a considerate, loving and ever supportive wife.

In reality we may be victims of certain circumstances in life that may turn the table around.

Imagine a breadwinner [husband] incapacitated, lost his job or his means of livelihood. In a country like ours, its remotely possible for anyone who had gone down financially to get back to nomalcy within a reasonable period of time, often times, it takes years with God's support to get back. The question now is what happens? who fills the vacumm?

The answer above lies in a considerate, loving and ever supportive wife. We cannot be too proud not to acknowledge that at such time we need and would accept any loving assistance from our partner. Remember, she's there to complement the strength of leadership in the man [hubby]

But aside from any unforseen circumstances we may be prone to, as future heads of our families, we would only strive to do our best to provide for our families.

My opinion:
I see nothing wrong in the woman taking up responsibilities in the family when necessary under certain circumstances. As men folks, we shouldn't be too proud to accept support from our partners, the least we should pray for is that the Almighty not allow anything to bar us from fulfilling our responsibilities to our family.

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u've done a proper analysis jare...switmoi...sure dats actually wat i want our lady folks to have in mind...a teachable spirit will go a long way...not the I mentality...u know all men (@ rm temp) have this ego & manny attitude to be in charge in r/ships, homes etc...and wont want that bruised...
so our women should just try align demselves...dont go solo....consult the man even if na u get the moni....it fosters love & d man go worship u 4eva ....na xpo b dat o

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If what you did yesterday still looks big to you, you haven't done much today .
......Mike Bertola.

I agree with Mike that a woman is supposed to complement her man and not substitute.

Theoretically, it is good to say there is no big deal in a woman being the breadwinner, but realistically it is not good. No matter how humble, caring or teachable a woman is, once she bears the financial burden she ceases to look up to her husband. At this point, her husband can not challenge or correct her because her response will boil down to 'If I dont to it this way (her own way), we wont have money to spend'. I'm paraphrasing. It will be better not to test the limits of a wife, you just might be suprised!!!

Really, even if for any reason a man loses his job or suffers a down time in his finances, he should at every point in time have an alternative source of income. This brings to mind the importance of investing or saving for a rainy day. As a man, no matter how high your salary is or how much profit you make in your business, make sure that you invest a percentage of it and save another percentage; saving & investing are 2 seperate issues. Your investments will always be a source of income for you if done wisely.

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......Mike Bertola.

Dear Mr Mol,

My sincere prayer for you this morning is that, should you get married, let 'her' be a loving, considerate and en ever-supportive companion.

You see your logic of share of 'responsibilities' wouldn't even work if u earn the whole world while she is the house-wife with no source of income.

That she has a means of livelihood is a good backup for unforseen occurences. That you've saved up some 'stipends' is cool too, but wot happens if ur 'buried talents' runs out and like naija dey tight now, there happens not to be an immeidate/alternative source of livelihood? [bros, na tight corner u go dey o!]. Would you go for 'the saddam option' since you are proud to accept your partners contributions, especially if it is done with love and great sincereness?

A typical naija man would say say say, but when reality reveals itself, dem go shift ground.

Na make God no allow our enemies put sand for our garri we go pray for.

No qualms if you post ur opinions but I think we should stop being assertive as to what responsibilities of each folk in a marriage is. At the least, we wait till we start nurturing and raising our families. By then, I'm sure most of us go see things differently

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when a woman is the breadwinner!!1


Food for thought!!!!
No average woman would want to be the breadwinner.no denials,there are women who would like to be one from the onset but an average woman wants to depend on her man for most of the things needed to keep going on.
I feel, naturally, that women are stingy,not because they want to be,but because they want a man to feel like a man.

but it is not always like that.a woman is supposed to be a help-mate to the man and that is why women,apart from being fulfilled,contribute in all ways to the upkeep of the home,no matter how little just to fulfill her role in the home.
Its true that a man will always say he can carry out his responsibilities but not without the help of his helpmate.

it would then be terrible if a woman suddenly becomes the breadwinner.its like a slap on the male ego,it makes a man feel irresponsible.
Its a different case is the man had problems and then has to depend on the wife for sometime,u know shit happens,he could lose his job, his business might not be going on well..............

well thats just my own thought.
As long as ur man is not a lazy man,a woman being the breadwinner is just for a while and women should not take advantage of this.That is why we are his helpmate.we should encourage him the much we can and still perform our duties irrespective of the situation.

A man will not just want his wife to be the breadwinner unless he is a lazy man and that is where i would subscribe to the harsh treatment(girls u know what i am talking about)
By the way ,what would u be doing with a lazy man in the first place?

So girls be good wives and men be responsible husbands.God help us All!!!!!!!!!!

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A very BIG AMEN! AMEN!! AMEN!!!

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If what you did yesterday still looks big to you, you haven't done much today .
......Mike Bertola.

correct peach...nice to know that ur a lady...
AMEN....to your prayer o

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i wonder wat is happening to this forum!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Fowe.
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hallo,
i agree..wit u all,but most importantly, i feel whether a woman is d breadwinner or not shouldnt b d issue/problem, d attitude of d couples ( what has it been like in their relationship) at dis point is what matters......we all pray that husbands should be breadwinners....but u and i know dat our economy hasnt helped matters....i think we should come to terms wit REALITY!

one question i also have to ask is, there are husbands who share d role of breadwinning ( what do i mean, u may ask), from the onset of getting married to their wives, they tell them.....I will pay d fees, rent.....and U(d wife) will pay for food,clothes.........what do we have to say of such men, and what advice do we give to their wives......

I have heard men saying they are not ready to marry a woman that isn't working, because they are not willing to be breadwinners....ALONE

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Em . . . let me confess, I didnt have time to gfollow this thread at all but i would just like to make contrib:


If the woman becomes the bread winner, then the man should be ready to become houseboy ( . . . and thank God if he doesnt). God help the bachelors . . .

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@fowe,
Thanks for the welcome! i know its been a while and lots of things have happened.Well,its good to be back once again though to face reality i think this site is kindof abandoned.Them say i be intending member.wetin dat one come mean again? Anyway,i'll try my best to be up and doing.
hope u are good!
cheers

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Abeg take am easy o!!!!!!!!!!!! Its not always so in all cases

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so whats d conclusion on ds matter?
shd we move on to anoda post seeing that this is 5months old now?

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